Current case bully (bullying) increasingly rampant in society. Tthere are not a few negative impacts of this behavior, both for those who makebully (perpetrators) as well as thosebully (victim). Therefore, the habit of doing bully this must stop immediately.
Bully is physical or mental violence that is carried out by one or more people by attacking or intimidating others. This violent behavior is common in the school environment and generally affects children or adolescents who are physically weaker than their peers. Sometimes, a child who is being bullied may lie so that other people don't know about it.
Recognizing the Effects and Characteristics of Child Victims of Bullying
Action bully not only when the perpetrator physically abuses the victim, such as hitting, slapping, or kicking. Bully it can also be done without physical violence, ie verbally such as mocking, calling someone with an insulting name, spreading gossip about the victim, or humiliating in front of many people.
In this era of technology as it is today, action bully easier to happen, often known as cyber bullying. Perpetrators simply use social media to bring down their victims, such as spreading text, photos, or videos with negative themes about the victim. Behavior bully This causes many negative effects for the victim, including:
- Having mental disorders, such as depression, low self-esteem, anxiety, difficulty sleeping well, wanting to hurt yourself, or even suicidal thoughts.
- Become a drug user.
- Afraid or lazy to go to school.
- Decreased academic achievement.
- Participate in violence or take revenge. For example, a man who has been inbully by women can be a misogynist.
Therefore, as a parent you must be observant to see the characteristics of changes in children's behavior, for example not enthusiastic about going to school, decreased learning achievement, or decreased appetite. Other changes that can be seen, such as:
- Suddenly losing friends or avoiding friend requests.
- His belongings were often lost or destroyed.
- Having trouble sleeping.
- Ran away from home.
- Looks stressed when he came home from school or after checking his cellphone.
- There may be wounds on his body.
If these characteristics exist in your child, try to talk to him from heart to heart. Start the conversation in a gentle way so that the child wants to express his heart. Teach him how to deal with people who are rude to him, such as avoiding meeting them or saying, "Don't bother me."
One other thing to remember is not to teach to fight back or use violence to the perpetrators. But teach him to stay strong, and don't give the others a chance bully to feel victorious for succeeding in making him despair. Also give encouragement to stay confident and keep hanging out with other good kids.
How to Stop Bullying
In stopping bully, actually you can also intervene by coming to school and then reporting the person who abused your child. That way, the school can handle it directly and report it to the parents concerned.
perpetrators bully must be stopped immediately. If left unchecked, this behavior can damage your child and the younger generation. Here are some steps parents can take to prevent action bully:
- Instill moral values from an early age.
- Invite children to jointly assess and distinguish good deeds from actions that are not appropriate for others.
- Build good communication with the child, and accompany him in the process of growth and development.
- Teach children how to be assertive, aka firm but always polite, so that they are not easily bullied and become people pleaser.
- You can also advise your child to be brave enough to report to the teacher at school when experiencing behavior bully.
- If your child doesn't feel like they can talk face-to-face, maybe he or she can write them a letter or email them.
- If your child is the perpetrator bullying, then invite the child to discuss and find out the cause. Explain to him that this is not commendable behavior, and is not acceptable.
- Parents can invite children (both perpetrators and victims) to undergo counseling so that their mindset and behavior can be more well-directed.
- No less important, be a good example for children. Because consciously or not, children will imitate their parents as a benchmark in attitude.
With the support and cooperation of parents and teachers, children can enjoy the learning process at school without action bully. If you are worried about the problem bully have an effect or influence that interferes with your child's growth and development, don't hesitate to consult a child psychologist.