Orgasm in men and women has little difference. Sexual intercourse can indeed be enjoyed without an orgasm, but the problem of orgasm, both in men and women, can sometimes be a big enough problem. This can even disrupt the harmonious relationship with your partner.
Orgasm is the sensation of pleasure that is felt when someone has sex with their partner. In addition to having sex, orgasm can be achieved when someone masturbates or masturbates. The emergence of pleasure during orgasm is caused by many things, including the production of endorphins.
Orgasms experienced by men and women are not the same, both from the signs and from how to stimulate stimulation to reach orgasm itself.
Differences in Orgasms in Men and Women
When reaching orgasm, generally the breath of men and women will be faster and stronger, and the heart beats faster. Even so, there are some basic differences between male and female orgasms that you need to know, namely:
Oorgasm in men
The period of orgasm in men begins just before the semen comes out until the semen comes out. However, sometimes some men can have an orgasm without ejaculating. In general, the process of orgasm in the male body is as follows:
1. Passion stage sexual (arousal)
When a man gets sexual or erotic stimulation physically or psychologically, his penis will stiffen or experience an erection. This is caused by the flow of blood that fills the shaft of the penis. In addition, the scrotum or testicles and testes will also be drawn closer to the body.
2. Preparatory stage/highlands (plateau)
At this stage, the pelvis begins to tighten, which is accompanied by the penile muscles that are increasingly tense. Likewise, blood pressure, heart rate, and respiratory rate increase. This stage can last from 30 seconds to 2 minutes and begins with a clear discharge or pre-ejaculatory fluid from the penis.
3. Orgasm and ejaculation
Orgasm in men occurs when there is a strong contraction of the muscles of the penis, anus, and perineal muscles that pushes semen and sperm out through the penis. The process of releasing semen containing sperm is called ejaculation. Sperm and semen are produced in the male reproductive organs, namely the testes, prostate gland, and seminal vesicles.
4. Resolution
This last stage is marked by the shrinking of the penis and testes, to their original size. His breath and heart rate that had been fast also slowly subsided. Men also usually feel relaxed and sleepy after reaching orgasm.
At this stage there is also a refractory phase, which is a recovery phase in which a man cannot achieve an erection again for some time. This refractory period varies and will usually last longer in older men.
Orgasm in Women
Here are some signs of orgasm in women that you can know based on the stages:
1. Passion stage sexual (arousal)
When a woman's sexual arousal rises, the blood vessels in the vagina will widen and increase blood flow in that area. This condition causes a woman's vagina to produce a natural vaginal lubricating fluid, so the vagina will be wet to facilitate penetration of the penis.
In addition, the breasts may feel tight and the nipples may feel more sensitive to touch.
2. Preparatory phase or phase plateau
When the vagina starts to get wet due to sexual stimulation, the clitoris will also become very sensitive. At this stage, the muscle tension of a woman's body begins to increase and can sometimes cause a spasming sensation from the legs, face, to the hands, and make the woman moan.
3. Orgasm
Women will experience intense or turbulent sensations that cause pleasure. Orgasms can also cause muscle contractions in the lower back and pelvis. In addition, some women can also discharge fluid from the vagina during orgasm (squirting).
4. Resolution
Unlike men, women can feel more than 1 orgasm in a short duration of time or the next few minutes. This phase is different from men who are generally difficult to reach orgasm in a short time after the previous orgasm.
However, many young women rarely or never have more than one orgasm. The reason is, this requires exploration and sufficient stimulation when having sex or masturbation. Over time, if you learn and want it, women can experience orgasm more than once.
Causes of Difficulty Having an Orgasm
Some women find it difficult to reach orgasm, while others may find it easier to achieve it through masturbation, but difficult through sexual penetration.
Difficulty achieving orgasm can be caused by many things, including:
- Lack of knowledge or information about how to achieve orgasm or comfortable intercourse
- Not getting enough stimulation, for example foreplay Too short
- Psychological problems, such as severe stress or depression
- Certain diseases, such as diabetes and thyroid disorders
- Side effects of drugs, eg antidepressants
- Fatigue
- Menopause
- Smoking habits or consuming alcoholic beverages
Not only women, men can also have problems achieving orgasm. In general, this is caused by psychological factors, such as stress or depression, side effects of drugs, hormonal disorders, or certain diseases.
To achieve orgasm in men and women together, it takes a close relationship or intimacy between the two during sexual intercourse.
In addition, men and women can also try several ways to increase sexual arousal in order to reach orgasm, for example by massaging each other, bathing together, making out and hugging, trying oral sex as a warm-up.
However, if you or your partner is still having trouble reaching orgasm during sexual intercourse, don't hesitate to consult a psychologist or psychiatrist so that you can get the right tips or recommendations in achieving orgasm.